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Irrational Thoughts and Fears

Allowing these symptoms to go unchecked can lead to serious consequences, and that is so un-necessary. Treatment works !

Finding oneself obsessed with thoughts of some health crisis  when none exists so that every ache or pain is thought to be a heart attack or signs of a brain tumor, worrying about contamination by germs to the point that one is fearful to leave their home, feeling this urge to have to drive back to an intersection to make sure you did not hit anyone although their was no evidence of such an act, are often referred to as irrational thoughts, part of a complex condition called Obesessive-Compulsive Disorder.

Now if you have never experienced these symptoms, you might scoff at the idea, and think to yourself, that sounds crazy. In fact, symptoms obsessive-compulsive dwelling on some irrational thought or a compulsive urge to repeat some behavior is much more common that you might think. And, I am seeing more and more children with these symptoms.

In reality, I think we all have at least some minor form of OCD. However, when "crazy" thoughts come into our heads, some might just blow them off dismissing them as something trivial. But what I have found is that the brighter we are, when we are feeling overwhelmed or in  some personal crisis, panic attacks or obsessive-compulsive behaviors are very common. In the case of many of my clients, I find these very uncomfortable obsessive thoughts to be just another painful reaction to anxiety and typically avoidance of issues and  conflict in one's life.

These intrusive thoughts have a source, there is a reason why they are creating havoc in many people's lives, but so often, the real triggers for these intrusive thoughts are ignored because for one thing, the actual thoughts become so frightening that that is all the  person is focused on ! On the other hand, treatment for obsessive thoughts is often so focused on medications, which may or may not bring about some decrease in the thoughts, that not enough  time is spent by therapists or psychiatrists to actually do therapy.

Therapy for obsessive-compulsive disorder can be a rather intense experience, but when done effectively, cognitive-behavioral therapy and exposure therapy works.
To challenge any anxiety symptoms, whether panic attacks, phobias or obsessive thoughts, the client must understand there is a reason why this is happening since goals must be set to deal effectively with the sources of conflict and pain in one's life. 

Self-Esteem is a very important part of our defense against anxiety symptoms. How we see ourselves, how we talk to ourselves in our private thoughts has everything to do with whether we are more or less vulnerable to anxiety symptoms and irrational fears.


The more pride one has for what he { or she } is achieving, the more one is willing to challenge herself to grow and stretch in her life's work, and the more a person sees that she is taking steps to face issues rather than avoid them, the more positive that person's self-talk will be. If one has avoided issues, is shied away from taking steps towards any of their dreams, the more likely their self-talk will be laden with negative, self-depricating thoughts.

If you do find yourself experiencing these intrusive thoughts or  catch yourself needing to carry out rituals before you can move on to some other task, you might consider talking to a therapist in your area who specializes in treating these types of anxiety disorders. 

Treatment works if you are willing to take the necessary steps, and the first step is to talk to a specialist. You are not crazy or losing your mind, but allowing these symptoms to go unchecked can lead to serious emotional and behavioral impairment, and that is so un-necessary.

Gene Benedetto, Psychologist
Benhaven Counseling, LLC
Blog: www.RuledByFear.com
On-Line Support Group: www.OneStepataTime.com

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Sicmarc May 9, 2013 at 07:35 pm
Bring back the bowling alley!
Tom Barnes May 9, 2013 at 03:05 pm
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Lindsey Hanson May 8, 2013 at 03:31 pm
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CC May 1, 2013 at 11:46 am
Frank Mitchell has the correct FACTUAL not emotional response. Ann D to call yourself a "lovingRead More citizen" and name someone a bigot in the same paragraph shows your true colors. If you truly feel that having non-english speaking children is not a burden on our school system then I suggest you go volunteer in a local elementary school on a weekly basis as I have done then you would be a true "loving citizen"
Ann D May 1, 2013 at 01:58 am
It's just a difference of opinion on where tax dollars should be spent. As a taxpayer I feel myRead More hefty taxes are better served educating children that will grow up into productive adults--"alien" or not they are a hard working people group. We spend far too much on wars and such...spend money on investing in people and guess what I am also fine with the free lunch program. :-) My tax dollars, my vote, money where my heart is. It's fine your heart or passion lies where it does...that's what makes America so great and makes so many people want to come here. Guess what? Your relatives came here too so "alien" status is a little more close to home than you think perhaps.
tiny May 1, 2013 at 12:41 am
Ann D, Williams alien ship may be a u-boat with pariscope up.
lily May 6, 2013 at 06:51 pm
Vikki yes I agree, more bully breed owners should be out there advocating for the breed. ThereRead More are wonderful groups that do just that, but we need more.
PK May 6, 2013 at 05:22 pm
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Vikki Foley Boyd May 6, 2013 at 02:10 pm
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Victoria Carll May 1, 2013 at 02:32 am
Alex, I am so proud of you! Great job. We love you. Aunt Victoria
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