UPDATE: Memorial Set for Restaurateur Tony Carbonara

The owner of Carbonara Trattoria died Thursday, failing to wake from a medically-induced coma.

Memorial services have been set for beloved local restaurateur Tony Carbonara.

Rosary and viewing hours will be Monday from 4 to 9 p.m., while the mass will be held 10 a.m. Tuesday -- both at Our Lady of Fatima Church.

A private internment will follow the mass, and then the Casa Romantica Cultural Center and Gardens will host an open house and remembrance from 3 p.m. to 9 p.m. Tuesday, according to the Downtown Business Association web site.

Carbonara's friends and family ask people to refrain from sending flowers and instead hold their contributions until a specific charitable cause is set up in Tony's name. More information to come.

From Jan. 25:

A well-known San Clemente restaurateur and philanthropist succumbed to a stroke the evening of Jan. 24, failing to wake from a medically-induced coma.

Tony Carbonara, 59, suffered the massive stroke, collapsing at the Valero gas station the morning of Jan. 23.

Those close to Carbonara said he was surrounded by friends and family as doctors took him off life support. They then celebrated his life at his iconic Carbonara Trattoria restaurant on Avenida Del Mar.

He was well known as a caterer and was heavily involved in local charities and organizations like the Boys & Girls Clubs, Chamber of Commerce and the Ocean Festival, among others.

San Clemente Mayor Bob Baker spoke fondly of him in an email to Patch Friday:

Tony Carbonara was an institution in San Clemente. If there was a civic event or fundraiser, everyone knew they could count on Carbonara’s to go above and beyond. I was proud to call him a friend; and his many friends are going to miss him dearly.

Sincerest condolences go out to the Carbonara family from the Baker family and from all the residents of San Clemente.

It’s a sad day for all of San Clemente.

Read the Orange County Register's obituary with dozens of fond remembrances here.

What is your favorite memory of Tony Carbonara? Tell us in the comments.

Adam Townsend January 25, 2013 at 04:40 PM
I never knew Tony, but I loved his restaurant. I always take my wife there on special occasions, as well as family from out-of-town. I also always heard his name around town as a big-hearted, charitable giver. My thoughts and prayers are with his family. And next time I'm at Carbonara Trattoria, I'll toast my dinner companions in Tony's honor.
Julie Rees January 25, 2013 at 05:25 PM
I didn't personally know Tony, but loved his restaurant. May god bless him. My deepest sympathy goes out to his loved ones. I will salute Tony the next meal I enjoy @ Carbonara's.
Adam Townsend January 25, 2013 at 05:25 PM
From an email from Tamara: Tony was a good friend. He donated his food, wine, staff and service for the annual events that I coordinated: The Ocean Festival Sponsor Appreciation Dinner held at Casa Romantica every July and numerous Boys & Girls Installation Dinners (which is tomorrow night). He was a huge supporter for the Boys & Girls and Casa Romantica. He also donated food and staff for the Friends of San Clemente Vista Hermosa Park and Aquatic Center Private Opening Reception this month last year. I don’t think he was capable of saying “no.”
Pauline Jordan January 25, 2013 at 06:09 PM
Tony and family prepared the food for my son's recent wedding at the Casa. It was impeccably presented and enjoyed by all. My heart goes out to Mary, Christina and all of their family. They remain in my prayers. God Bless.
Justin McCarthy January 25, 2013 at 07:15 PM
Tony's passing leaves a true void in San Clemente and our lives. We will surely miss Tony greeting his guests at Carbonarra's, shooting the bull during a morning coffee at Calypso's or enjoying himself at the Casa. I feel we have all lost a very good friend.
suzanne ansari January 25, 2013 at 07:39 PM
San Clemente has lost a true community hero and restaurateur. May God bless and comfort his family
Kara January 25, 2013 at 07:52 PM
He was such a wonderful man to all and I feel so fortunate to have worked for him for over 3 years. He was one of the nicest people and his warm and generous heart filled the room! I am going to miss you Tony, you are loved so very much!
Barney Doyle January 25, 2013 at 08:51 PM
If it weren't for Tony and Mary, we wouldn't have succeeded in our business on Del Mar. He had the biggest heart and never stopped giving. Our prayers go out to his family and friends, and San Clemente will not be the same without him. With our deepest sympathies, Barney & Rachael Doyle Former owners of San Clemente Wine Company
Eric Bergstrom January 25, 2013 at 11:51 PM
I can't even tell you how many times Patti and I have been to Carbonara's. Love that restaurant. So warm and inviting and the food was, in the words of many a wise guy, "Unbelievable!" Patti is a full-blooded Italian and grew up on authentic Italian food back east and we both just love this restaurant. It had to be a good man to create such a good place. Rest in Peace, Tony.
Bryan Gros January 26, 2013 at 01:50 AM
Tony was my first boss and he taught me everything there was to know about being a great worker. I give all the credit to Tony for the success I have had. He was a great person, father, boss, and friend and will truly be missed but never forgotten. Rest in Peace Tony. I would also like to let Mary, Christina, and Michelle know that they are in my prayers.
Deborah January 26, 2013 at 03:08 PM
Thank you so much, Mr. Townsend, for creating this forum to share our memories of a truly great man. Tony Carbonara was (to us) the heart and soul of this community, and the unofficial Mayor-at-Large. Just really blessed to have known such a wonderful and giving man. Prayers and love to Mary, Christina and the entire Carbonara family.
ryan lawrence January 26, 2013 at 06:30 PM
tony was a great guy everytime i would see him at carbonaras or at tina and vinces he would always smile and say hi! he was a great man a sincerly friendly person to all and everyone loved him! i will send my blessing to his whole family. he def will be missed and was a big part of san clememte.
Christine Lampert January 26, 2013 at 08:12 PM
Tony will be missed here in San Clemente where he was known for his philanthropy as well as his delightful restaurant. He has been an icon of generosity for many many years. I hope that his family will be able to carry on his tradition with the restaurant and as a giver to the community. It is so sad that he left us at such a young age. My thoughts and prayers go to his family.
Tom Marshall January 26, 2013 at 08:20 PM
God must have been hungry or he wouldn't have sent for Tony so soon. I got to know Tony when I worked at Casa Romantica. He was always there for us no matter what we needed. One night he even rounded-up 70 canolli for us at the last minute for a performance on Italian music. He was also a guiding force for Casa's annual fundraiser. He was not only a gentleman with a great sense of humor, but a fellow Chicago transplant. He will be greatly missed.
Adam Townsend January 28, 2013 at 03:25 PM
By James Eckel from SC Patch's Facebook Page: Tony Carbonara was SAN CLEMENTE. if ever there were an irreplaceable person, TONY was that person to San Clemente. I will remember fondly his great and funny stories about the life he led and the many joys he put into other people's lives. If one's life is judged by the final words of the Beatles' Abbey Road Album .. that the love you take is equal to the love you make, then you may rival Tony, but NEVER overcome him. God Bless you my SC Downtown friend.
Glenn Brosche January 29, 2013 at 07:45 PM
I have known Tony for a number of years - of course he had the restaurant and provided catering throughout San Clemente in support of all the different charities - but he was even more than that, he was the warmest man you would ever want to meet. No matter how your day was going when you saw Tony you just knew it was going to get a whole lot better - Tony had a rare quality about him and it was his compassion for his fellow man - your grace Tony will be missed by all of us.
Jennifer Fitzpatrick January 29, 2013 at 09:08 PM
I was fortunate enough to meet Tony and Mary on several occasions while eating at Carbonara's. He was always so welcoming and treated everyone like his personal guest of honor. Even though Tony was Italian, his wife Mary was Irish. Being Irish, I would talk to Mary every time I went in there and took my parents to meet them both. They were both so gracious and charming. San Clemente won't be the same. Mary, I so sorry for your loss. I hope God consoles you and your family at this most difficult time. God Bless
John Smith November 26, 2013 at 06:35 PM
my name is peter gervasi. me and my family all knew tony and his family personally. hell,i even worked at the restaurant off and on for a while. my deepest sympathies and love to the whole family. mary,it was so nice seeing you after all those years. i love all you guys. hello vito. take care paison.ciao,,pietro gervasi


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